wat's life?
wat matters most?
God?family?friends?money?relationships?status?wealth?
looks?health?
what i put first determines the way i act...wat's my priorities?
i grew up believing the world to be a beautiful place....that it's filled w ppl who
are beautiful n r treasures for u to discover...i believed in making new friends.
i believed that u shd do wat u want in life...take a career cuz u love it...not cuz u'll get rich.
lose the job if it means u compromising ur believes...love others n others will love u..
i believed in love.i wouldn't marry the person if i didn't love him...
money isn't everything...it isn't the most important thing.
but along the way.....adults tell me different things.
things that contradict wat i perceived life to be.Grown ppl who hv gone through hardships n hv taken the brunt of life itself.
Money IS important. ppl see u as how much u own,wat car u drive,where u stand in life.
and when u r brought up in a family which is quite well-off...the way u carry urself,ur self-image,ur mindset is diff fr a not so well off family.
why?
ur status in life...being accomplished n being a 'cheena' businessman,why do ppl look at them differently?
u walk into a posh restaurant or a five star hotel....
look at the way the waiters or receptionist treat these two ppl.
it's real,it's happening.
the world treats u differently by looking at u...
and so were my perceptions high n lofty ideals?
is this the price i have to pay for growing up?
to learn that a doctorate is THE most important thing in life?
"don't be so naive,u think u can survive by studying that?u won't be able to get a job here.in the end it's whether u can put rice in ur own bowl!!!This is safe. u'll never go bankrupt.u'll always hv a job."
but wat if this is not wat i want to do? wat do i love??
i love to talk,i love languages,i love physics.
wat's wrong w that?
but i need to feed my family...
so sacrifice i hv to.n i'm not the only one...
many ppl have had to give up wat they want to do cuz:
1)not enough money
2)too many siblings hence,not enuf money
3)spent money on another sibling's education hence,not enuf money.
4)parents didn't think that should spent so much money on a liability-daughters....
in the end...it's about money...
IS IT??
is the world about money only....about which career u shd choose to sustain urself?
n then some say "do wat u love...
if u take up sumthing that u hv a great interest in,well,u will do well!"
hmm...
so who do i listen to?
or do u do it ur way....
fall down get up again,n do it UR way,
or do u take the road others hv chosen for u...
the safe way,the way where it's easier....listen to sumone else...
but wat's wrong w listening to sumone else?
wat's wrong w not living it the way u want?
to take a risk but taking the risk of ending up w satisfaction or guilt?
do i dare to look for my own way?
do i dare step off the path chosen for me?
is it wise?jz cuz i want to explore on my own?
even when it's safer following sumone else's path?
or do i take my life in my own hands....search for sumthing more..
find out wat i'm good at..
live it my way?
find out whether this world IS only made out of money...
or maybe this world sees u not for wat u are....but wat u're worth...
can i live a simple life n be happy?
w/o achieving any heights??
who's right? who's wrong?
how will i find the answers?
where do i begin my search??
why the contradiction??
why do ppl who dun hv much seem happier??
or do they only seem??
why when ppl get a taste of wealth they keep wanting more??
is the thirst for wealth insatiable??
is it possible to travel the world w/o money??
wat's important??
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For some people, especially in Asian cultures, security is very important. It is after all the second tier of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. This means that many people will be a lot more worried about their job security, insurance and retirement than achieving their dreams. Dreams are only dreams after all. Dreams can't feed the family and pay the bills.
Our parents and the Asian generation that grew up before them were schooled in more conservative, traditional Asian values. The primary difference between Asian and Western cultures is their emphasis: Asians grow up learning that the family and the greater community is more important than them and we should sacrifice our good for theirs while Westerners live in a world of individual "rights" that are protected even when detrimental to the greater society.
Asian parents learned to sacrifice their dreams for their families. They learned to play it safe, hate what they have to do everyday so they could feed us. Is it any wonder that they expect us to do the same?
The unfortunate fact is that the successful and the wealthy didn't get up there by playing it safe. Short of great luck, it takes daring and risk to climb to the highest rungs of life's ladder. If you want it, you have to risk it.
Our parents wanted it but they'd rather not have risked it. They do something far short of what they want because it's safer. They're stuck in the lower- and middle-classes but they don't dare to climb up.
I cannot say they are wrong. We live in uncertain times, far more volatile than our parents' era. Luck changes fast and we have to predict and react faster and harder than ever before.
But the prize that awaits shines even brighter today.
If you dare, take the risks that you want to. But be prepared to fail and calculate your survivability before you take the plunge.
Risk is an important aspect of life we must respect but at the same time tame. Because we only live once. In the end, everybody dies. There's not really much of a tomorrow; we can only be sure we have now and today to do the things we want.
So choose wisely and balance it all out.
Couldn't have said it better myself, byran. It is really all about risk. Yes, pursuing your dreams and doing what you enjoy is important. Love should be one of the highest if not the highest thing on your list of priorities. There are many things that we all want but are forced to compromise. The reason for it is simple:
Reality is NOT so simple. All our dreams and ideals are subject to something called the real world. Our dreams and ideals can only be brought to fruition in reality and are therefore bound by the laws of the real world.
You have to balance these dreams and ideals with the realities of life. That is a universal truth. Failure to do otherwise will lead to your doom, most of the time.
There will be times that you will not be able to balance these teo things so well. Times when you can't see the past of the fog of the future and you will have to choose one of many paths. Sometimes, even those paths will not be visible. Like every other human being, you will have to make a choice anyway. You will have to weigh the laws of reality and your ambitions and ideals. Ignore the ideals of the laws of life and your very spirit and life will be in peril. You will have to reach a compromise and then all you can do is take the plunge but with your eyes wide open.
God is there as a guide along the road of your life. You may pray for guidance. Sometimes you get it and sometimes He answers in ways you do not yet understand. I've always thought of our God as a rational and generous being. He gives us choices, hence Man's free will, but in the end it is you who have to make informed choices and choose your path with Him as a guide. This is so cliche bu you hold your destiny in the palm of your hand. You make the decisions. God is your navigator but you are the driver. Grab that steering wheel, try to follow the driving laws and bend or break them when necessary to reach your destination but still remain in one piece.
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